Soulwork
Systemic Coaching
What is Soulwork? This page can walk you through some of the basics! Here you can learn a little about the synergy between your emotions, your beliefs, your relationships and your success ... in almost any field.
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Contents at a Glance
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What is Soulwork?
Soulwork represents a new wave of change - a set of models and coaching tools that explores and encourages emotional maturity, healthy relationships and challenging life goals, as the path and the reward of a worthwhile life.
Below are brief explanations of these tools, with examples to help you understand them, or to help you make Soulwork a part of your life.
Soulwork Development
Soulwork development focuses on a desire to help people define and fulfill their goals. This requires excellence in goal-setting (goalwork), sensitivity to non-verbal communication and in quickly recognizing behavioral patterns.
| The primary Soulwork developer is
Martyn Carruthers. Martyn has a
background as a paramedic, in health physics and emergency planning. He
was certified as a NLP trainer in Canada in 1988. He was certified as a
hypnotherapist, and was accepted as a teacher (kumu) of Hawaiian
healing by native Hawaiian elders in 1995.
Martyn created theoretical models and practical methods that expanded his systemic coaching into areas of human consciousness which had been all but ignored ... especially into exploring the emotional basis of personal identity in relationships. |
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Soulwork Purpose
A Soulwork coach< emphasizes exploring people's goals and subjective experience, rather than dictating theories or models of what their experience should be. We adjust our methods to fit each person ... rather than trying to bend people to fit our theories! We help people end self-sabotage and get the changes they want. We coach people to accelerate their personal development by by telephone or Skype.
Soulwork, Goals and Coaching Skills
Life Goals are usually chosen by young adults, and are modified as those people mature. A childish wish to be an explorer may evolve into a passion for scientific research. Later this becomes a desire to create a technical advance and even later may evolve into a wish to improve the quality of life for many people.
Many goals are simply steps to more important goals ... and many important goals are often values. (E.g. "I want a pay raise and then a new car so that I can feel secure and successful"). Goalwork only seems simple.
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Coaching skills are an essential part of Soulwork. Basic coaching skills involve defining goals, evaluating the consequences of reaching those goals, fine-tuning those goals, encouraging people to fulfill their goals, and dissolving cognitive, emotional and relationship blocks to those goals. Systemic Coaching refers to coaching people in human relationship systems, such as partners, families and teams, and is more complex than coaching isolated individuals.
More advanced coaching skills involve finding a stable experience of integrity (we also call this Soul) and helping people use this experience as a basis for quickly resolving relationship disappointments, limiting beliefs and identity loss.
Soulwork, Beliefs and Values
Beliefs are not facts ... beliefs are feelings of certainty about verbalized phrases or sentences. Beliefs are generalizations typically based on either life experience or accepted during communications with other people. Many beliefs are also bonds ... ways of feeling connected to important people (e.g. parents and teachers). We help people change unwanted limiting beliefs and emotional entanglements.
Values are abstractions of what is important. Power, for example, or Stability or Success. People with particular values can be expected to act and react in predictable ways. People's values evolve (and devolve) predictably, based mostly on their physical ages and life challenges. (Values often change when a past trauma is assimilated.)
Soulwork, Emotions and Trauma
Emotional Maturity refers to behaving in ways appropriate to one's physical age. Maturity involves managing difficult emotions, internal conflicts and dysfunctional habits. Emotional maturity is most apparent in relationship behavior. People can stop growing emotionally at any age, and many people are immature sometimes. (We say, "There's no such things as negative emotions!")
| We define trauma as events that cause people to split off part of their identity or consciousness. Trauma results in distorted emotional messages and immature behavior. Soulwork helps people understand their emotions, pull themselves together, change unwanted limiting beliefs and improve their relationships. |
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Soulwork and Personal Identity
Personal Identity refers to who you are ... a composite that is more than the sum of all of your parts. In Soulwork our deepest sense of identity is considered to be a transpersonal experience of self-beyond-time ... an experience of connectedness that often appears to transcend birth, life and death.
Many people have strange identifications and other forms of identity loss, hence finding and stabilizing this experience transpersonal or basic identity is a foundation for the more advanced Soulwork skills.
Soulwork and Relationship Skills
Relationships are complex and emotions are often counter-intuitive. We treat claims that emotions or relationships are simple with similar reactions to claims that the moon is made of cheese.
Healthy Relationship skills allow people to relate and communicate in honest and candid ways appropriate to the relationship ... whether with early family members, friends, teams, partners, children or other community members. Each relationship type requires competence in different skills in a hierarchy of complexity.
| The main purpose of our website is to share information.
The most important Soulwork information sharing site is
www.soulwork.net,
where people can find articles on many topics and
specialties. This website also includes important details about
systemic coaching and the content of our Soulwork training courses and
seminars. Fractal by Martyn Carruthers |
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Relationship systems rarely have clear boundaries. Every detail reflects other details in a complex hall of mirrors. All too often, effect may precede causes, and causes may be embedded within layers - like Russian dolls of intentions, emotions and skills.
Deciding what really happened or what is true often involves siding with one member of a human system against another. You can learn to accept multiple possibilities without believing that any one is true. (This is essential in couple and marriage coaching, and in team training, where you often hear at least two different descriptions of the same events.)
Soulwork Training
Soulwork Training is the process of learning our modern alchemy ... our methods of dissolving emotional blocks, accelerating emotional maturity and developing healthy relationship skills. We offer Soulwork training in ten 5-day segments - usually over 12-18 months. The first eight segments are required for certification and registration.
(Why not test your own knowledge with the Soulwork Coach Final Exam!)
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Becoming a Soulwork Coach
Soulwork Coaches are people whom we have trained, examined and certified as able to help people change their lives using our methods. Some Soulwork Coaches have private coaching practices or a jobs in which they can flexibly coach people to solve their emotional and relationship blocks and achieve their goals.
If you are very good at what you do, and you can prove it, you will always stand out from a crowd.
Becoming a Soulwork Trainer
A Soulwork Trainer is the apex of Soulwork training ... a master of change-work ... a person who can help most people change their emotions, relationship habits and lives ... and a person who can train people to coach others. To become a Soulwork Trainer you will work closely with Martyn and / or Kosjenka, you will probably have a coaching / counseling / therapy practice and you will learn to handle all the common challenges concerning people and their problems as they work towards defining and achieving their goals.
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