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Much advice for emotional and
relationship problems is nice, simple and wrong.
Good intentions and kind advice so often result in unpleasant consequences.
We coach people to make difficult decisions in changing conditions.
And here's our Systemic Coach
Exam!
Our systemic solutions do not replace coaching. Ordinary coaching is
useful when you make simple decisions in controllable environments with single
objectives. Our systems coaching is wonderful when you must make complex decisions,
especially in difficult environments or with ambiguous objectives.
There's no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love.
There is a scarcity of resolve to make it happen. Wayne Dyer
People who attend our training are either motivated to solve their own issues or
solve other people's issues ... or both. Many of our students wish to become
professional coaches, while others want to be more resourceful in their own
lives, perhaps occasionally helping friends, relatives and colleagues.
Those students who wish to help others may already have university or
other training as helping professionals, or our training may be their
first taste of helping others. Either way, we suggest that students
consider early what specialties they would like to consider. Many of
our students are very well-educated in science, engineering or art,
and want to add people skills to their expertise.
We find that students who choose potential specialties, even if the students
change their minds later, have more focus and motivation during the training.
Here are the three main choices:
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Do you want to do something truly
worthwhile?
Help people solve emotional and relationship
blocks to happiness and success in short times frames.
This is especially appropriate
for therapists, counselors, etc
Learn our systemic coaching in
eight 5-day workshops.
Overview of Coach Training |
Do you want to improve your communication and
relationship skills at home and at work?
We can help you increase your freedom from
entanglements and relationship habits.
We can help you sort out some personal issues during
demonstrations and exercises.
For rapid personal development ...
Healthy Relationships
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Do you want to coach people
through special situations?
Do you want to help people deal with issues such as
abortion,
adoption,
compulsions etc.
Do you want to supervise
or train coaches?
Most of our specialty workshops
are 2-day to 5-days
Specialty
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As your attitudes influences other people, your primary task as a coach
or trainer is to manage your own emotions, especially anxiety, irritation and
discouragement. The better you solve your own problems and challenges, the
faster and easier you can coach others to solve theirs.
If you are motivated and have credibility, you could
enjoy free systemic coach training ...
... if you organize our workshops.
See Organizers
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Anybody whose calling is to guide souls
should have his own soul guided first, to know what it means to deal with
the human soul. Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing
with the darkness of other people. Carl Jung |
Our training
helps coaches provide effective coaching
for people to solve a huge
variety of emotional issues and relationship problems. We don't teach
tricks or techniques, we teach ways to understand how people create
incredible situations, what stops intelligent and motivated people
solving their own problems, and how to coach people to dissolve their own
issues.
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Is this you? |
- Do you want to enjoy your own development?
- Are you friendly, and motivated to help people?
- Do you want to help people - or just help yourself?
- Do you want to enjoy helping people build their success?
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Your next steps |
- Compare our services to other services
- Try our coaching - experience its benefits
- Consider organizing our training in your area
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And then |
- Attend our systemic coach training
- Improve your relationship and coaching skills
- Consider offering an essential coaching service
- Add systemic coaching to your professional repertoire
- Find simple and cost effective ways to share your skills
- Learn how to set up, promote and provide systemic
solutions
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Many of our students have university education
in psychology, psychotherapy or medicine. They may have the most knowledge ...
and often the most knowledge to unlearn. Are you
willing to put ineffective theories aside during our training, and learn
other methods? This way you lose nothing and you can gain very useful models of
coaching people to make lasting changes.
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Sciences that focus on population statistics can become
sciences of mediocrity.
We explore how exceptional people are innovative, effective, creative and
magnificent.
We explore how ordinary people can duplicate expertise ... in all parts of life.
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We teach a big picture of our coaching
and show how each step fits into that picture. We give many demonstrations and
exercises in which students practice the skills required for each step. We discuss
what happened in the exercises - and what could have happened. Then we do more
demonstrations with the more difficult or complex situations that were exposed
during the exercises. People learn quickly.
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What stops people solving their own problems? |
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Do you want to learn practical coaching? Do you want to
learn how to plan coaching sessions, to make coaching contracts, to clarify
difficult relationships; to resolve guilt and conflicts; to control
obsessions and end compulsions; to change toxic relationships and limiting
beliefs; to deal with trauma and to dissolve therapist damage?
Advanced & Specialty Training is also available.
- Coach people to evaluate their relationships
- Provide appropriate relationship coaching strategies
- Learn to identify emotional expressions (not so
easy!)
- Learn to identify relationship types and relationship
health
- Learn how to access adaptive emotions to produce change
- Learn appropriate skills for handling different emotional
states
- Coach people recognize their problems and potential
solutions
- Understand the role of emotion in dysfunction and
relationship distress
- Understand relationships in the contexts of intimacy,
identity and attachment
Our coach training can help you develop
your skills in planning,
assessing and implementing systemic coaching with individuals, couples,
families and groups. Develop your skills in courses of increasing
complexity,
that follow the sequence of systemic coaching. And here's the
coach exam!
Many people
cannot answer the question, "What do you want?" clearly.
Many people are entangled in relationships
and cannot focus on personal goals. In this first segment of our
coach training you can learn how to recognize many types of relationship
entanglements and how to start clarifying those entanglements.
After clarification, most people can better discuss
their goals, and plan to achieve their goals. For some people, this is
all the coaching they need to move ahead in their lives. For others, systemic
diagnosis provides a summary of which relationships need what sort of
attention, which provides a basis for a systemic coaching plan. And our
diagnosis may indicate that you would be wise to refer them to other
helping professionals.
On our Systems 1 training, you can observe many
demonstrations with real relationship issues, and you can practice with
other participants to build your experience:
- Relationships and systems theories
- How to quickly assess relationship health
- How to stay resourceful amidst chaotic relationships
- How to recognize
emotional incest and
codependence
- How success, health and relationships are interconnected
- How relationships evolve in a hierarchy of relationship types
- How to create and interpret a relationship matrix (family map)
- How to recognize relationship transferences and entanglements
- How to clarify relationships with living, missing and dead people
- How to select exercise partners for class homework assignments
- How to dissolve entanglements
with parents, partners and children
- How to identify which clients may not benefit from systemic coaching
- How to use systemic diagnosis to create a relationship coaching plan
Few people can define what they want. People more often
know what they don't want, or what they should want, or have vague, abstract
goals. Many people show verbal and nonverbal objections to
their own goals, and often show conflict about the achievement and
consequences of their goals.
If coaching is to be truly goal-directed, then you need some
way of coaching people to find well specified and congruent (supported by
conscious and unconscious communication).
Our Systems 2 training offers you ways to coach people to
use both conscious and unconscious resources to make effective plans for
achieving congruent goals. You can observe many demonstrations concerning
problematic goals, and you can practice with other participants to build
your experience:
- How to ask goal questions
- How to dissolve self-criticism
- How to respond to untimed goals
- How to respond to negative goals
- How to respond to abstract goals
- How to respond to conflicting goals
- How to respond to manipulative goals
- How to respond to philosophical goals
- How to recognize and respond to flattery
- How to recognize toxic relationship bonds
- How to deal with criticism from other people
- How to respond to spontaneous trance during goalwork
- How to dissolve "Yes-but" objections in ordinary conversation
- How to dissolve "Yes-No" objections (simultaneous incongruence)
- How to recognize and respond to verbal and non-verbal objections.
- How to recognize identity loss (lost identity, identifications and
identity conflict)
Many people interrupt their sessions with descriptions
of vivid nightmares or recurring dreams. Other people may be unable to answer questions
about life goals without going into trance-like states.
Hence our Systems 3 coach training explores how to find
life goals and how to continue goalwork in dreams and in trance. You
will observe many demonstrations with real issues, and you will practice
with other participants to build your experience:
- How to use mini-metaphors
- How to start goalwork in trance
- How to recognize identifications
- How to recognize major identity loss
- How to recognize spontaneous trance
- How to recognize toxic relationship bonds
- How to recognize
identity conflict (complex conflict)
- How to change reality using isomorphic metaphors
- How to start and continue interactive metaphors
(Dreamwork)
- How to coach people to end nightmares or recurring bad dreams
- How to coach a person to experience integrity (Soul of Soulwork)
- How to recognize ecstatic and transcendental states of consciousness
- How to stabilize integrity to dissolve
emotional incest,
bonds and
trauma.
- How to create isomorphic interactive metaphors to identify goals
and blocks
Systems 4: Abuse, Trauma & PTSD
Many people who cannot achieve their goals carry unresolved and often
forgotten trauma. Until these trauma are resolved, these people may act
childishly in situations requiring maturity. They will likely sabotage
themselves, damage relationships and continue to fail.
The consequences of abuse, trauma and
PTSD may be contextual, (e.g. a phobia) or existential (all of
life). Trauma may create major identity issues (see
Systems 6) and
toxic relationship bonds (see Systems 5).
Attempts to resolve trauma without resolving
identity issues and relationship bonds provide only short-term
benefits at best. Our coach training provides you with effective skills for most
life issues.
- Recognizing stages of crisis
- How to prepare for future unpleasant events
- How to transform unpleasant emotions into motivation
- How to dissolve trauma about disease and health issues
- How to resolve phobias - and the underlying symbols and triggers
- How to help people recover lost or hidden resources - for the long-term
- How to coach people to evaluate and integrate emotions that
they don't like
- How to recognize the delayed consequences of abuse, crisis
and emotional trauma
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Systems 4 was another fine piece of the complex and
comprehensive system called Soulwork Systemic Solutions. I hope that this
develops and spreads, so that it helps people to fulfill their lives.
Professor Martin mid, (PhD, Prague, Czech Republic)
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Many people feel compelled to repeat actions that they would
prefer to avoid. Fixed ideas, compulsions and obsessions often indicate
relationship bonds
- deep limiting beliefs that pervade all parts of life. In Systems 5 you can explore
the systemic structure of compulsions and obsessions as you learn
how to repair the damage from deep relationship disappointments.
In our early trainings, we called these bonds
thoughtforms. (Relationship
bonds may even be called demons by esoteric, archaic and medieval authorities.)
In Systems 5 coach
training you can learn:
- How to differentiate between relationship
bonds
- How to recognize seven types of relationship bonds
- How to limit the consequences of relationship bonds
- How to explore the consequences of bonded relationships
- How to replace toxic bonds with peaceful self-esteem, freedom and love
After relationship bonds are dissolved, we can better dissolve
emotional abuse and trauma. Together, Systems 4, 5
and 6, offer resolution for most relationship entanglements
that cause emotional and relationship problems.
Systems 6: Identity Loss, Identifications & Identity Conflict
If people have deep unconscious blocks against long-term happiness;
then endless encouragement or goal coaching cannot help them fulfill or even
define meaningful goals. This training is about
people who have lost access to their emotions and other qualities (identity
loss), who have identified with others
(identification) or who have
complex conflict (identity conflict).
These systemic disturbances may be contextual (triggered by
some internal or external event) or existential (all of life).
Identity loss is associated with subtle or overwhelming emotions, or
the lack of emotions. They are usually formed during family crisis or
relationship chaos during childhood, but may remain dormant until adolescence.
In our Systems 6
training you can learn how to explore the various forms of identity loss and
effective ways for restoring personal integrity. You will observe many
demonstrations with real issues, and you can practice with other students to
build your experience, as you learn how to coach people to resolve:
- chronic dissociation
- chronic anger or rage
- chronic fear or anxiety
- chronic sadness or melancholy
- complex conflict (conflicts that cannot
be resolved by sequencing goals)
Extreme identity loss may be diagnosed as mental
disorders. After identity loss is resolved, We address
relationship bonds and then emotional trauma. Together, Systems 4, 5
and 6, offer complete coaching for people to solve entanglements
that cause many emotional and relationship problems. (We estimate that 20%
- 25% of Europeans and Americans suffer from chronic identity loss.)
We consider the issues of identity loss covered in our training segment
to be an extreme form of relationship bonds. Lesser
forms of identity loss are covered in earlier coach training.
Systems 7:
Inspiration & Mentorship
You can learn how to evaluate and replace toxic role models and mentors.
Help people choose inspirational mentors in all parts of life. Learn
how to model and duplicate expert behavior, focusing on problem solving
techniques. Learn how to coach people to build and fine-tune life-fulfilling goals.
Systems 7 training includes ways to dissolve the consequences of inappropriate
mentorship from cults and cult-like organizations (see
Exit Coaching), incompetent
therapists and well-meaning authorities.
- Introduction to financial
maturity
- How to start a systemic coaching practice
- How to coach people to resolve some
sexual issues
- How to evaluate and fine tune unconscious strategies
- How to do expert modeling
of conscious and unconscious expert strategies
- How to recognize and dissolve
mentor damage
(damage by therapists and teachers)
As the consequences of even the best individual coaching can disturb a
partnership, couple coaching is a wonderful way to complete a coaching
program for people in committed relationships ... ensure
that individual changes support couple happiness.
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You coached me for my
chronic fatigue
... your coaching was very effective ... but as soon as I had
energy again, I was in crisis with my (older) partner ... My
chronic fatigue was well suited to our retired lifestyle
... thank heavens for your couple coaching! Florence, Italy |
You can coach couples or partners to solve issues that prevent them from
solving their own problems. Coach partners to coach each other to express love
and resolve complaints. You can help couples dissolve transferences
(mistaking a partner for someone else), projections (placing
fantasies on a partner), false pretences and hidden agendas.
Triangulation can
describe one partner trying to gain the coach's alliance in influencing the
other partner, or two family members victimizing a third (which we link to the
development of chronic anger in children).
We coach couples to prepare for committed partnership,
end relationship damage and, sometimes, coach couples to
separate peacefully.
Conjoint (simultaneous) coaching begins true systemic coaching, which
we continue with the more complex family coaching, team coaching and community coaching.
Our Systems 8 coach training includes:
- How to prepare couples for couple coaching
- How to notice and quickly dissolve
triangulation
- How to quickly uncover core partnership issues
- How to build and maintain trust with both partners
- How to coach people through
separation or
divorce
- How to resolve transferences
and core transference loops
- How and when to provide individual coaching to one partner
- How to set homework for couples between coaching sessions
Systems 9 - Family Coaching
. Systems 10 - Team Coaching
Online Coaching & Mentorship
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