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Can you imagine the relief of untangling difficult relationships
and painful emotions?
Learn to replace anger, sadness
and fear with good feelings, and end self-sabotage.
Premarital Coaching: Dating, Affairs & Committed Partnership
Are you or your partner like candles?
Do you attract and burn a lot of moths?
People who prefer short-term affairs may be poor
long-term partners. Seduction skills are not partnership skills. People
who seduce many sex-partners may become unable to enjoy a long term
partnership. Their ability to attract others may harm a marriage - a
long-term partnership requires many other skills than flirting and
seduction. (See Mother-Bonded Men
and Father-Bonded Women)
Changing how you meet people can also help you avoid
unpleasant relationships. Often, how you meet impacts a subsequent
relationship. You may have
different expectations if you meet someone at a bar, at a seminar or
at a wedding. Changing how you meet can lead to better relationships.
Have you agreed on what type of relationship you both want? Are you going to
be just friends? Intimate when it's convenient? Or does your relationship have
the chemistry and shared values suitable for a lasting partnership? Determining
limits can help both of you know the boundaries of your relationship.
Premarital Coaching & Emotions
A component of our premarital coaching is verbalizing withheld emotions such
as anger, guilt and fear. Many couples can move on quickly after they have
verbalized their emotions. We often coach people to express their unspoken
emotions, and to understand their partner’s emotions.
A next step is to uncover the causes of those difficult emotions. For us, an
emotion reflects a relationship ... so we identify the relationship
entanglements that resulted in unpleasant emotions.
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The most shocking part of our coaching
was to understand our actions were driven by hidden emotions, and that our
emotions were driven by past relationships.
His relationship with his mother
and mine with my older brother ...
just childish confusions that never got cleaned up ... until now.
We now see each other as much more human somehow. London, UK |
Premarital Counseling: Your First Partner
Did you know that your partnership choices probably
originated in your childhood? Like a baby duck, as a child you imprinted
your parents' characteristics. Your emotional imprints will attract
you to similar people later in life. Perhaps its time to complete your
unfinished business in old relationships.
Do you think that you can change your patterns? Even if you decide,
"I’ll NEVER have a marriage like my parents!" - that
may not prevent you repeating your parents' drama. Perhaps they said
the same thing when they were young. Can you change your
relationship habits? Do you want to?
Couple Coaching: Second and Subsequent Partners
Are you consistent when choosing life partners? Do your second or
subsequent partners remind you of your parents or previous partners?
This consistency can be so strong that many people who were abused
can find (or create) abusers in subsequent relationships.
How can you break this cycle? One way is to become emotionally
mature - especially when you are with with your parents and siblings.
We can help you find emotional maturity.
Single Parents
Sometimes, a parent may be unable or unwilling to
care for a child. Perhaps you divorced or perhaps a
partner died. Perhaps a pregnancy was an unplanned accident. See
Single Parents and
Adoption.
Commitment & When to Commit
If couples take time to know each other in a relationship, some
would never make a commitment. Later, when incompatibilities surface,
partners are likely to blame each other for their lack of communication.
There is no such a thing as a lack of communication.
Every gesture, every withdrawal, delay, or retreat is communication, although
it may be communication that the other partner does not enjoy.
Do you or your partner have difficulty communicating? Many couples wait until
after marriage to talk about values and roles. Our Couple Coaching
helps couples improve their partnership.
Sexual Compatibility & Couple Coaching
Have you assessed your sexual compatibility with your partner?
Can you imagine solving sexual difficulties during relationship coaching? Do
you want to explore your path to sexual happiness?
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Masters and Johnson, (experts in sexuality) |
Half of all American marriages
are troubled by some form of sexual distress ranging from disinterest and
boredom to outright sexual dysfunction. |
Many couples, and even some relationship coaches, avoid discussing
sex. Immature or insecure therapists and counselors may be reluctant to talk about
a couple’s sexual happiness and avoid discussing sexual issues with clients!
Counselors and therapists who are only trained to work with individuals may
be unable to help couples explore and improve relationship and sexual issues.
During our partnership coaching, many couples explore their sex life.
Our couple coaching may bring a breakthrough in healing sensitive emotional and
relationship issues about sex.
Sexual Abuse
. Sexual Dysfunction
. Sexual Solutions
Medical causes of sexual dysfunction
should be diagnosed and treated by a medical doctor before exploring
other remedies for sexual issues.
Couple Coaching & Affairs
Infidelity is a common topic
during our couple coaching. We help couples rebuild their communication, which
becomes less blocked and more candid as they better understand each other. If
ignored, common consequences of affairs are that
one or both partners become burdened with guilt and anxiety:
- They learn to hide and live with the burden of past affairs
- They become emotionally unhealthy, carrying guilt for years
- They live together without intimacy, just sharing an apartment or house
- They express their underlying anger and blame, constantly
ready to fight
Unresolved infidelity is a common
reason for conflict and
partnership breakdown.
Trying to heal your own emotional
issues can be difficult.
Predictable Partnership
. Enjoy Partnership
. Evaluate Partnership
We help motivated adults dissolve emotional blocks and
relationship issues.
We help people enjoy good feelings and quality relationships.
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