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Do you want to explore how your emotions influence your
environment - your relationships with family, friends, co-workers and
your community? This knowledge can change your life!
Coaching & Mentoring Human Systems
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Do you want to explore and apply higher
orders of cognition -
systemic thinking and
quantum thinking?
We offer coaching and training on managing emotions,
happy relationships and healthy relationship
skills.
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When you are with other people, you act differently
to when you are alone. You act differently in different types of
relationships - you follow rules. Much human behavior that may seem irrational or even
insane can become both obvious and predictable when the rules of
those relationships are known.
Do you sometimes act like a parent - or like a child
- to people who are not related to you? Do you sometimes act like
a manager - with your family? Do you sometimes want time away from
those people whom you love most?
A systemic perception of relationships can bring
significant change (a paradigm shift) in the way helping professionals
diagnose problems and help people change. Systemic diagnosis exposes
underlying dynamics which, if not resolved, can be expressed as
misery, disease, accidents and criminal behavior.
Our systems coaching is for people
who wish to help people improve their relationship ecology
- the appropriateness of the consequences of their actions upon their relationships.
Successful relationship ecology leads
to a shared sense of wellbeing.
Systems Coaching & Relationship Ecology
A human system is a group of people that attempt to
accomplish goals together. Many human systems include smaller groups
(sub-systems) that strive to achieve their own goals at the
expense of the larger systems. (E.g.: an overly close relationship
between a mother and son can
alienate the son's father and disrupt the son's life ...
perhaps for decades).
If human systems are perceived in terms of hierarchies
and boundaries - then systemic goals will show similar hierarchies and
boundaries. Sub-groups may sacrifice their members in the service of
their goals - and other members may condemn or ignore larger goals in
favor of their more limited perspectives.
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System |
Survival |
Some Systemic Goals |
| Humanity |
Human Species |
Provide humanity with genetic diversity |
| Country |
National Traditions |
Provide regions with national
culture |
| Political Party |
Political Power |
Provide communities with leadership
and authority |
| Religion |
Religious Doctrine |
Provide communities with doctrinal
support |
| Region |
Regional character |
Provide communities with
bonding traditions |
| City |
Municipal services |
Provide communities with support
services |
| Community |
Mutual Support |
Provide families with security and
safety |
| School |
Knowledge & Skills |
Provide children with essential
skills for adulthood |
| Family |
Family traditions |
Provide children with skills for
family harmony |
| Individual |
Physical Body |
Protect body and create babies |
Changing Human Systems
Our systemic oaching and mentorship helps people in families, teams and communities
find wider perspectives
than individual success. We use systems theories to identify and
interpret repeated patterns (habits) and predict the consequences
to couples, families, workgroups and communities.
A family, team or community can include wonderful people who
may operate well by themselves but do not integrate well. Such human systems may suffer from a lack of integration.
A systemic coach can recognize the systemic functions of a family, team or
community members, and their interrelations, and can diagnose problems by
recognizing the patterns of interaction. We focus on provoking
behaviors that determine future goals - rather than reacting or abreacting to
past disappointments.
Systems Theory, Systems Analysis & Systems Coaching
Systems theory, systems analysis and systems thinking
are major breakthroughs that are often ignored by helping professionals
in favor of older, statistical models. Systems thinking helps people view
the world, including its organizations, from a perspective of structures,
patterns and events, rather than the events themselves. We use systems
analysis to identify the (often obscure) causes of systemic problems and how to change
relationships ecologically ... so that all members can benefit.
Systemic Examples
For example, family behavior depends on its entire system (not
the sum of its parts). A family structure determines member's behavior,
which determine family events. Too often, people only see and respond
to events, and miss the broader scheme - the
systemic scheme exposed by relationship diagnosis.
Too often in families and workgroups (and in training programs),
people
think that they can break up the system and only have to deal with its
individual members;
or that they can focus on a certain topic (e.g. performance) independent
from other topics (e.g. partnership goals).
There appear to be optimum sizes for each type of human
system, from friends to countries. A larger system may try to break
itself up into sub-systems to achieve stability. Pre-systemic models
(e.g. esoteric or statistical models) used
to fix human systems may hasten the disintegration of the system.
(Consider the systemic events that lead to the disintegration of Russian
communism.)
If we consider families as an example of a human system, some principles that apply to families are:
- A family system seeks balance with its environment
- A family ecosystem is greater than the sum of its members
- Most family systems are sub-systems of many larger systems
- A family system has sub-systems, borders and limits to growth
- A family system has an optimum size (in balance
with its environment)
A family may experience the same problems repeatedly -
many problems seem to recycle over time. Family members typically recognize the
patterns of behaviors, rather than the underlying dynamics. As children mature
and become parents, they recognize the phases their children pass through.
It may be against unspoken family
rules to know too much about the family rules ...
you may know less about your
own family dynamics than those of any other family.
This opens the fascinating topic we refer to as taboo beliefs.
Systemic Family Behavior
Families have predictable patterns of interactions
(cultural and family traditions) that are passed and replicated across
generations. Family interactions can modify but rarely end these cross-
generational entanglements. External observation and assistance is often
needed - which we can provide with our systemic coaching.
Each family member affects all other members of a family.
Parental moods and actions affect children and other relatives. Family
members respond to each other's emotions in predictable ways. Many solutions
create new problems - and often a solution is worse than the problem. Systemic
family coaching finds solutions that benefit all members.
Systemic Coaching & Quantum Thinking
We incorporate many concepts from quantum physics -
for example from Dr Werner Heisenberg (observation changes whatever
is being observed), Dr Erwin Schr�dinger (all possibilities
exist until a system is observed), Dr Enrico Fermi (the absence
of a part describes that part), Dr Albert Einstein (all change
is relative to an observer).
You cannot know what all members of a human system are doing NOW.
You can only know what they were doing previously - and then only
from well-defined temporal and perceptual positions. Attempts to determine what
everybody is doing NOW will change what everybody is doing!
Violation of systemic rules in human systems can lead to
dysfunctional behavior - and tragedy in subsequent generations. Cross-generational
entanglements underlie many personal and
professional problems. Restoring balance and harmony to a family system
or management team can resolve physical symptoms of its members,
not only emotional and mental suffering. See
quantum coaching.
While family systems will create problems -
those problems also recreate family systems. Such problems do not exist independently
of an observer who defines them! We coach people to change their
family structure and systemic rules, rather than attempting to change individual
compensation behavior.
When family systems are honored; when guilt is healed
and duties clarified; members usually feel huge relief. We help people
move forward with a sense of purpose instead of a
burden of depression and guilt. We help people live lives that make sense.
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