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Are you entangled in relationship disappointments or painful emotions?
Do you suffer from your parents' drama or your partner's moods?
We help people untangle their lives.
Partnership Problems
Male impotence and female frigidity are common partnership
problems, referring to an inability to enjoy normal sexual activity, or to
experience the pleasure and release of orgasm. These sexual dysfunctions often
have relationship or emotional causes.
We help people resolve sexual issues. If ignored, sexual
problems can increase the likelihood of a partner's sexual affairs ... or
divorce. Sexual dysfunction often reflects relationship issues.
The causes of partnership problems include emotional
incest, promiscuous behavior, unresolved past partners, affairs and
abortions. I find that the emotions
underlying sexual dysfunction often center on guilt, anger and anxiety,
which generate and sustain limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging inner
dialog:
(Note: the only people that we have met
with Freud's classic Oedipus, Electra and penis envy complexes had been
psychoanalyzed or had been trained in Freudian psychodynamic therapy).
Sexual Dysfunction
As sexual dysfunction often reflects emotional conflicts,
we have helped many people achieve lasting results by helping resolve those
conflicts. Specific physical conditions predisposing sexual dysfunction
can be treated medically. We help people resolve
sexual dysfunctions such as:
- Hypersexuality (sex addict) - constant
sexual arousal;
- Erectile dysfunction - a man cannot
sustain an erect penis;
- Vaginismus - a woman's vaginal muscles
contract during intercourse;
- Dyspareunia - a woman experiences
significant pain during intercourse;
- Anorgasmia - inability to achieve
orgasm despite normal sexual stimulation;
- Hyposexuality (inhibited sexual
excitement) - sexual arousal only with difficulty;
- Premature ejaculation - a man
ejaculates before or shortly after entering a vagina;
- Ejaculatory impotence (inhibited male orgasm)
- a man cannot achieve orgasm in a vagina (although he can sustain an
erection and may reach orgasm by other methods).
The Angle of Dangle ... Male Impotence
Approximately 10% of all men will one day be unable to
achieve or maintain an erection. A man who cannot maintain an erect penis
is unable to participate fully in sexual intercourse.
- Common risk factors for male impotence include age,
anxiety, stress & relationship conflicts.
- Some drugs have side effects that can contribute
to impotence. These include diuretics, tricyclic antidepressants,
beta-blockers, and hormones.
- Physical causes of impotence include trauma and
disease such as: diabetes; pelvic surgery;
spinal injury and glandular problems.
Erectile dysfunction may be expressed in
early adolescence as an inability to achieve erection; but more
commonly consists of adult onset after years of normal function.
Ejaculatory impotence is a male inability to ejaculate within a
sexual partner's vagina. An erection may be maintained for long periods,
even after the partner has achieved orgasm. Ejaculatory impotence usually
has an emotional (relationship) basis.
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Millions of men now use Viagra to treat
erectile impotence & erectile dysfunction. Viagra has become a medication
of choice for erectile dysfunction ... but ...
- Viagra will not dissolve relationship conflicts
or change emotional habits
- Viagra side effects include facial flushes,
headaches, gastrointestinal distress and a blue tinge to vision
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Female Frigidity
Women who are not aroused during sexual intercourse may
be accused by men of being frigid. Such frigidity has three
distinct symptoms:
- cannot achieve orgasm (anorgasmia)
- can achieve sexual arousal only with difficulty
(hyposexuality)
- does not enjoy sexual response (either with
specific partners, or generally)
Female frigidity may be caused by sexual abuse, emotional
incest, trauma, vaginal spasms (vaginismus) or pain (dyspareunia) during
attempted intercourse. As with men, female sexual response may be impaired
by relationship disappointments and other emotional causes, or can be
triggered by emotional conflicts, anxiety or other stresses.
Emotional Blocks and Beliefs
Emotional blocks that affect sexual pleasure can take many
forms. Many unpleasant emotions are combined with limiting beliefs to form
mental habits such as:
- I can't ...
- I am helpless
- I am worthless
- I must be certain
- I am afraid of failure
- I worry about change
- I am scared of success
- I must punish my partner
- I am afraid of making mistakes
- I am angry about past disappointments
Emotional beliefs often seem to dictate or predict what
people experience. Changing emotional beliefs can allow people to
experience more of life. Most people can only do or achieve things
that are within their emotional belief system.
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My mother always said that sex
was disgusting and humiliating, and that decent women had to pretend
to like it ... my husband had to threaten to leave before
I asked for coaching. And now ...
sex is wonderful. Dublin, Ireland |
Such emotional beliefs are often relationship bonds ...
ways of feeling connected to family members or other authorities. We
help people to change limiting beliefs and dysfunctional bonds.
Solutions for Sexual Issues
Left unresolved, sexual dysfunction increases the
likelihood of symptoms associated with depression. Our systemic coaching
can help alleviate mental discomfort or sexual dysfunction, especially
if the dysfunction involves strong emotions or difficult relationships.
An important tissue is self-esteem
... if you dislike yourself, perhaps due to guilt or shame following betrayal or
abandonment, you may feel preoccupied with some past event and unable to enjoy
the present moment. We help people explore and change unpleasant
emotions.
Paradigm Shift - Systemic Coaching
We can help many people who suffer from relationship
issues, including sexual challenges. We also help partners
change emotions such as anxiety, guilt, conflicts and trauma. We usually
focus on helping people resolve emotional conflicts and relationship issues to
improve partnership pleasure and cooperation, including sexual intimacy.
Please consult a physician about any opinions
about Viagra, impotence or other medical conditions.
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