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We offer coaching, seminars and
workshops on systemic coaching, happiness,
resolving
family chaos, family constellations and relationship bonds.
What is a System?
A system is a group of interacting elements.
A system can be
an electrical circuit or the ecology of a rainforest. Living
systems are more complex than non-living systems, although many systems
include non-living and living elements.
Living systems can refer to parts of an
organism, members of a group of organisms, or groups of organisms that
interact with other groups of organisms. Living systems
may interact with inanimate elements such as water or
oil. Many living systems can affect your survival potential - your health.
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Some Systemic Elements of You |
| Physical you |
Mental you
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Micro-relationships |
Macro-relationships |
| Immune system
Lymphatic system
Digestive system |
Your beliefs
Your values
Your identity |
Your family-of-origin
Your friends
Your partner & children |
Your organizations
Your communities
Your culture |
Systemic Health
Your survival potential (health) is subject to
internal and external constraints, as both a living system
and as an element of many other living systems. If your environment is
stable, you need make little or no change to survive. If your environment is
unstable, you can survive by adapting or changing.
Sometimes your individual health is less important
than the systemic health of a human system. You may, consciously or
unconsciously, sacrifice your health for benefit the health of another person,
for your family or for a your community. You may sacrifice yourself
for a common good.
Systemic Health = Survival Potential
Your survival potential within living systems reflects
your health and your ability to cope with stress - which can be biological, physical
or emotional stress. Your ability to cope with stress reflects your age, your
physical health, your ethnic background, your education and your genetic
heritage. Your survival potential also depends on your relationships.
Your health reflects your
available energy, your flexibility, your immunity
and your motivation to cope with change. You can change your
survivor potential by changing any of its components. Your body health is in an optimum state when
your immune system, cellular system and endocrine systems are in stable equilibrium.
Excellent physical health often reflects excellent
emotional health. If your heath suffers during stress, you can reactivate your health by
exercise, diet and improving
your relationships - all of which appears to stimulate your immune,
cellular and endocrine systems.
Systemic Thinking & Systemic Intelligence
Systemic intelligence refers to behavior in a system
that involves interaction and feedback both with elements within the system
and with the environment. Systemic intelligence reflects an awareness of
the influences of the system as well as the influences on the system.
Living systems adapt to their environment with systemic
intelligence, and some will try to increase their systemic potential at
the expense of other systems. Systems that may benefit from your not
surviving may be systems that compete for your resources.
Competitive systems may include a thief who wants your
computer, a person who wants your partner, a neighbor who wants your land,
a rival team that wants your intellectual property or a country that wants
your country's resources.
Systemic intelligence includes your life philosophy - an
integral of your values and beliefs about yourself and your place in your
systems and your environment. (The work of Clare Graves predicts how
relationships evolve - and devolve - over time, due to systemic and
environmental stressors).
Living systems that may benefit from your disease or death
can aggressively reduce your survival potential. When living systems try to
reduce your organization and energy potential, your systemic intelligence
tries to generate an opposing reaction - to survive. You can survive aggressive
interactions with other systems if you can counter their systemic potential.
Systemic success may be called adaptation or
even
evolution. A lack of
adaptation can result in diseases of body, mind
and spirit; or systemic destruction - disease, death, genocide or extinction.
Systemic Family Planning
You are affected by the history of your relatives (parents, siblings, cousins, uncles and aunts,
grandparents, great-grandparents etc). Events that significantly influenced
your family over the past few generations can cause
significant blocks to success. For example, did anyone in your family:
- Give a child for adoption?
- Have an illegitimate child?
- Commit or attempt suicide?
- Experience traumatic events?
- Die or suffer during childbirth?
- Experience physical or mental disability?
- Have an abortion, stillbirth or miscarriage?
- Suffer illness or disability from giving birth?
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- Die in military service?
- Commit a serious crime?
- Suffer or die in a genocide?
- Lose an inheritance or a fortune?
- Never have an intimate partnership?
- Have a former spouse, fiancé or partner?
- Have a life-threatening accident or illness?
- Emigrate and lose contact with the family?
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Uncovering these events need not require painstaking genealogical research -
experience in systemic coaching often gives insights into family events.
Sometimes, there ain't no such thing as family secrets.
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You asked
about my sadness ... then you asked if my mother had an abortion between me
and a sibling. I was certain she had not, as my mother and I are
very close ... I told my mother about your question ... she was shocked ...
she had ... she said that it was in another town and that not even my father
knew about it ... but how did you know? Warsaw, Poland |
Individual Health in Human Systems
The onset of disease symptoms often seems to follow relationship
disappointments and emotional chaos. If you experience
relationship or emotional chaos, and you want to be happy, then your success,
happiness and health may require
that you:
- identify goals
- evaluate relationships
- dissolve objections
to goals
- clarify problematic relationships
- change toxic or limiting core beliefs
- heal the consequences of any trauma or abuse
- find appropriate mentors that support your life goals
- create healthy partnership, dynamic teams and supportive
communities
Some keys to fulfilling relationships are to know
what you want, know what other people want, actively relate with those
people to seek common goals, avoid attacking or withdrawal, and build harmony.
Do You Want Results?
Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers, 2005-2011 All rights reserved.
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