Systemic Coaching & Training in Africa
We introduced systemic coaching
to Africa with SABC TV (South Africa Broadcasting Corporation).
We provide assistance for
volunteer workers who assist AIDS orphans in East Africa and for organizations
who help young people have better relationships in Nigeria.
HIV and AIDS is devastating Africa.
Enormous numbers of adults are living and dying with HIV/AIDS, with less access to health care
than anywhere else in the world. There is little money and a large social stigma of
being HIV positive or an AIDS orphan. Many children are without parents, money or skills.
Many of these
orphaned children have died. More are dying. Please help us ... help
children.
Soulwork Nigeria
Systemic Coaching for Relief Workers
Martyn Carruthers
A happy partnership - intelligent children growing to
independence - wise parents - supportive friends - a comfortable home
- fulfilling work - a sense of being
where you should be ... what could be better?
If only it were so easy. In Tanzania, some two
million people are infected with HIV and will die of AIDS. And in Tanzania alone,
there are already a million AIDS
orphans. About half of all orphans are due to the deaths of their parents from
AIDS. These young children desperately need
help. They need financial support in a country that is very poor
by Western standards ... and they need emotional support.
In many families, one or more adults are HIV
positive or have already
died of AIDS. And when a person dies "before their time" - there are
often
unpleasant emotional consequences for the children of the family ... and for their children.
Some of these children will die from malnutrition
... without food. Some will die from diseases such as diarrhea, pneumonia,
malaria and measles ... without treatment. Poverty and illiteracy are made worse
by hunger. Abandoned and malnourished children start school later, if at all,
and find learning more difficult. These orphans are more likely to die ... or to live
with emotional scars than your children.
Under stress, both children and adults may lose access to their
sense of identity. Following a premature death, other family members,
usually young children, may suffer identity loss, and either lose any sense of
self or unconsciously
identify with a dead person.
The risk of identification with a dead person is much higher if the dead person
is perceived to have died a shameful death (such as abortion or suicide) - and
AIDS is seen as shameful. The symptoms of dead person
identification are unpleasant.
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Some Signs & Symptoms of Dead Person Identification |
- Chronic sadness and melancholy
- May appear to have "psychic" sensitivity
- Preoccupied with death and dying
- Fascination with cemeteries
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- May risk their lives (may welcome death)
- May be sterile or avoid becoming parents
- May fear that own children will die young
- May have miscarriages and dead babies
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Identity Loss .
Dead Person Identification .
Parent Coaching
Another challenge in families with AIDS is survivor
guilt. If a family member dies in a way that is perceived as
unjust, surviving members may feel guilty that they are alive when a
good person died. People who feel guilty can find ways to punish
themselves.
We offer brief yet
lasting solutions for relationship and emotional problems following premature
adult deaths in
families. These methods were developed during extensive post-abortion and
post-suicide systemic coaching in Europe.
Coaches, counselors and workers who understand
dead person identification can better recognize and help people with this
condition. Empathy and
consideration can flow with systemic solutions.
Our Soulwork training combines theory,
demonstration and exercises to provide a complete system of individual,
couple and family coaching. Live demonstrations will help you recognize,
evaluate and change your emotions about people who have died - as a
foundation for you helping families.
Although this workshop is to
help relief workers recognize and dissolve the consequences of premature
deaths in families affected by AIDS, the same principles can be used to
alleviate the emotional consequences of other deaths in families.
This training includes many demonstrations and exercises
to help participants test and apply
Soulwork skills. Every point is discussed and demonstrated, and is followed by
exercises. After each exercise, any interesting or
challenging issues are discussed. Participants can learn
very quickly this way.
As a knowledge about HIV and AIDS helps people
work with people who are HIV-positive; this course
includes training for people working, or wishing to work, with AIDS orphans and
vulnerable children.
Systemic Coaching Objectives
At the end of the systemic coaching portion of this training, you will know how to:
- Recognize signs of identity loss and Identification
- Discover with whom a person is identified
- Help people reclaim their own lost identity
- Resolve Identification with Dead Persons
Systemic Coach Training in Africa
Many of our trainings for relief
workers are for our expenses only.
Email us for more information about our
participation in projects in Africa and elsewhere.
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Systemic Coach Training |
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Our innovative and improved coaching
methodology helps people dissolve and control problems about
relationships, health and success. We provide effective telephone coaching
and training. We can train you to coach individuals, partners and teams
to resolve emotional and relationship problems.
Our systemic coach training is
usually in 5-day
segments
or sometimes two weekends |
We donate our coaching expertise to
help orphans and teenagers in Africa.
Would you like to participate?
Enhance your career with
relationship coach training.
You can coach people to gain
clarity and to dissolve success blocks and relationship issues.
You can coach people
to enjoy success and quality relationships.
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