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Do you want to change emotional stress, toxic relationships or limiting
beliefs?
Do you want to enjoy life more?
Can you Cope with Change?
Stress happens. Stress happens every day. Stress is a
normal part of life. And stress may interfere with study, work, friendships
and family. Many stress reactions are delayed, people may express their
stress reactions months or years later as behavioral problems,
psychosomatic symptoms, physical disease or
learning disorders.
We help people deal with stress. One
simple pattern is:
- Decide to avoid or reduce a source
of stress
- Dissolve anger or fear that
contributes to stress
- Search for options to avoid or reduce
the stressors
- Find an option that controls, removes or
reduces a stressor
- Search for resources that enable you to
follow through and change it
Few people like stress, but most people can adjust to stressful
events and move on. And some get stuck. If the stress causes people to split-off
part of themselves - those parts may not grow up, rather continuing to
relive the stressful event, rather like a needle on an old gramophone record.
This can continue for many years or until the stressful event is assimilated.
Following stress which sub-divided the personality, we can
help people find, recover and integrate the lost parts of themselves.
Help for Adjustment Disorders
Adjustment disorders differ to common, everyday stress and
emotional problems. If you lose a partner or a job - you may feel depressed.
If you lost a partner or job two years ago, and you are still depressed, then
you may have an emotional problem or relationship issue.
You may experience some frustration, but you can solve most
problems with your own resources (which includes your ability to find other
resources). You explore options, trying one and another until you remove the
stressor or reduce its intensity. Your emotional maturity reflects
your ability to rapidly respond to and control stress.
Can you adjust to stress? Perhaps you were
never taught stress control; or the stressor is too much for you to handle.
An inability to resolve stress may be called age regression, immaturity,
covert emotional incest, emotional trauma, post-traumatic stress disorder
(PTSD) or other possibilities.
If you experienced high stress and your symptoms
impair your life, then you may have an adjustment disorder. Important
parts of your life may include difficulties at school or work, social
problems, legal difficulties, relationship chaos or symptoms of disease.
What causes Adjustment Disorders (AD)
An adjustment disorder is an exaggerated emotional or
behavioral reaction to a stressful event or change. The
reaction usually occurs within a few months of the identified event or
change (although the unpleasant feelings may be dissociated or repressed for
years, only to explode later in life).
Stressful events that change the life of
a child, adolescent or immature adult include a family move, parental
separation, the loss of a family member, and the birth of a sibling.
Sometimes a parent's love can feel more confining than
freeing, more demanding than nurturing. Were you an "emotional partner"
to a parent? If so, you may be a victim of covert emotional incest.
We help people dissolve adjustment disorders and
stress reactions. As people vary in their experiences, temperament and therefore
in their ability to cope; and as stressors can vary in intensity, duration and
effect, we cannot accurately predict how many sessions might be needed.
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Synonyms |
AD,
mental illness, PTSD, psychiatric disorder, non-psychotic disturbance,
sub-threshold disorders, sub-threshold syndromes, psychosocial
stressors, stress disorders, suicide, suicidal impulses, anxiety,
depression, self-harm, psychopathology, stress reactions, relationship
chaos, self-sabotage, fixations or low self-esteem |
Who is affected - and how?
Stress disorders occur equally in males
and females at all ages in all cultures. Symptoms of adjustment disorders in
younger children include tantrums and withdrawal. Adolescent symptoms may
include hyperactivity, while adults more often experience depression. The
reactions to the stressors seem to be exaggerated, and may interfere with
education, work or family responsibilities.
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Most treatments for stress just try
to delete symptoms. We help people manage their underlying emotional
responses and relationship disappointments. |
Symptoms of Adjustment Disorders
The following are the three most common groups of symptoms
of adjustment disorders, roughly based on maturity. (Mixtures of symptoms
are common. A person who oscillates between two different symptom sets may
be expressing a systemic disorder called Identity Conflict.)
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Childish Adults |
Age-regressed adults act like children.
In some cultures, it is acceptable for a man to act childishly if he is
stressed or ill. This may not be acceptable in other cultures, and may
be unacceptable for women. |
1. Anxiety Symptoms (mostly children or age-regressed adults)
- Nervous, Worried, Afraid of change
- Afraid of separation from parents or partner
- Generalized Anxiety / Agoraphobia (extreme)
2. Behavioral Symptoms (mostly teenagers or age-regressed
adults)
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Hyperactivity and Attention Deficit Disorders (ADD
- ADHD)
- Preoccupied with violence &
gore (e.g. TV, computer games and cinema)
- Violates others rights (e.g. bullying, theft)
or societal rules (e.g. truancy, delinquency)
3. Depressive Symptoms (mostly adults)
- Depressed and withdrawn
- Melancholy, crying and tearfulness
- Expresses hopelessness and
helplessness
When the stress ends, some people withdraw into depression
or experience crisis. They may feel overwhelmed by unpleasant emotions
(e.g. loneliness, abandonment or rejection) and they may desperately seek
distractions!
Such people only seek help after they have suffered enough.
Have you suffered enough?
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Consult a physician about medical or psychiatric conditions. |
Do you want to free yourself from unpleasant emotions?
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