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We offer coaching and
training on systemic family coaching,
developmental disorders and happy relationships.
Link to Part 2 -
Personality Disorders
Symptoms called Developmental
Disorders and Personality Disorders are opinions
used by psychologists and health professionals to help determine
appropriate treatments. A coach who understands these opinions
can better communicate with psychologists and health professionals,
although few professional opinions based on DSM4 (a popular psychiatrist's
manual) can be
confirmed or rejected by laboratory tests.
If clients appear to
have a diagnosable medical or psychiatric condition,
please refer them to a medical doctor or psychiatrist.
Personality Disorders and
Developmental Disorders are medical terms that are rarely
used in coaching. Descriptions of these disorders are useful to
better communicate with health professionals. We find that statistical
data are not useful when coaching individual clients.
Part 1: Developmental Disorders & Systemic Coaching
Symptoms associated with developmental
disorders, psychological and emotional disorders may overlap with
our systemic diagnosis. We offer help to people for many
mental health disorders.
Stop what stops you solving your problems!
Developmental and personality disorders
are common. Mild cases may be called personality traits, and
severe cases may be called psychosis. The severity of symptoms
often reflects relationship stress and possibilities for
emotional release.
Systemic coaching assumes that members
of a family influence each other. Common family entanglements include:
- children who are entangled with their
siblings
- partners who are entangled with past
partners
- uncles, aunts, cousins and
close family friends
- parents who are entangled with their
own parents
Entanglements, transferences and codependence
are often expressed by symptoms of
identity loss.
Our Systemic Models
Our systemic coaching models identity loss,
and its consequences:
- structural (family hierarchies)
- evolutionary (families evolve in
predictable patterns)
- cybernetic (feedback loops amongst family
members)
- functional (dysfunctional symptoms have functions
and benefits)
- relationship (confusion of relationship
types has predictable consequences)
Most families try to solve their problems by their
own rules. If the rules are toxic, their shallow solutions may make problems
worse. We help motivated family members:
- identify their feedback loops
- expose their underlying entanglements
- dissolve their relationship entanglements
- develop appropriate communication skills
- plan the family's development
Adaptive learning (change behavior) can be
followed by generative learning (change the structure of a
relationship system). Systemic coaching focuses on evolutionary
learning (changing the identities of the members) and systemic
learning (changing the identity of the system). See
Knowledge Management.
Projection & Transference in Coaching
Any relationship can be distorted by
projection and transference.
For example, a parent may relate to a child as if to a partner,
leading to the consequences of
emotional incest. (The most common
varieties of emotional incest are between Mothers and Sons
and Fathers and Daughters.)
Deficiencies or injustice in a family systems lead to
a spectrum of symptoms, which often indicate the function of relationship
entanglements. Most medical and psychiatric diagnosis is symptom based;
while the systemic relationship diagnosis we use in our systemic
coaching focuses on identifying the underlying relationship entanglements.
Treating symptoms while ignoring underlying
relationship entanglements can lead to short-term change, typical of
applying medication, esoteric and cognitive approaches to emotional or
relationship disorders.
Symptoms of Developmental Disorders
- Antisocial attitudes and actions
- Aggression and perhaps violence
- Lacks self-esteem and self-control
- Lacks empathy, compassion and remorse
- Behavioral and learning problems at school
- Cannot express trust, intimacy and affection
- Lonely - cannot maintain healthy friendships
- Needy and clingy, or pretends independence
- Alienates parents, caregivers and authorities
- Withdrawal and perhaps depression or psychosis
- Maltreats their own children when they are parents
- Hopeless or pessimistic view of self, family and society
Attachment Disorders .
Adjustment Disorders |
Don't wait for problems to just go away. Talk to your family
and listen carefully. It is usually easier to resolve problems when the problems
are still small. You and your family can learn to work through problems together.
If you are a parent, strive to be a role model for mature behavior.
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Personality Disorders
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