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Our training can develop your skills in observation, planning,
assessing and implementing coaching with individuals, couples,
families and groups. Develop your coaching skills in courses of increasing
complexity, that follow the sequence of practical coaching. And - here's
the exam.
if you ask people, "What do you want?", few
people can answer clearly. Many people are so entangled in relationships
that they cannot focus on personal goals. In this first segment of systemic
coach training you can learn how to recognize many types of relationship
entanglements and how to start clarifying those entanglements.
After clarification, most people can better discuss their
goals, and plans for achieving their goals. For some people, this is all the
systemic coaching they need to move ahead in their lives. For others, systemic
diagnosis provides a summary of which relationships need what sort of attention,
which forms a basis for a relationship coaching plan. And for a few, systemic
diagnosis can show that you would be wise to refer them to other professionals.
On Systems 1 coach training, you observe many demonstrations
with real relationship issues, and you can practice with other participants
to build your experience:
- Relationships and systems theories
- How to stay resourceful in chaotic relationships
- How to recognize
emotional incest and
codependence
- How success, health and relationships are interconnected
- How to select exercise partners for homework assignments
- How relationships evolve in a hierarchy of relationship types
- How to create and interpret a relationship matrix (family map)
- How to recognize relationship transferences
and entanglements
- How to quickly assess relationship health
and relationship habits
- How to use relationship diagnosis to create
relationship coaching plans
- How to identify which clients are unlikely to
benefit from systemic coaching
- How to coach people to clarify relationships with
living, missing and dead people
- How to dissolve
entanglements
and heal relationships with parents, partners and children
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Anybody whose calling is to guide souls
should have his own soul guided first, to know what it means to deal with
the human soul. Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing
with the darkness of other people. Carl Jung |
Few people know exactly what they want. People more
often know what they don't want, or what they should want, or have
some abstraction as a goal. Many people have verbal and nonverbal objections
to their own goals, and often describe conflict about the achievement and
consequences of their goals.
If coaching is to be truly goal-directed, then you
need some way of coaching people to specify congruent (supported by
unconscious non-verbal communication) goals.
Systems 2 coach training offers you proven ways to coach
people to use both conscious and unconscious resources to make effective
plans for achieving congruent goals. You can observe many demonstrations
concerning problematic goals, and you can practice with other participants
to develop your skills:
- How to ask goalwork questions
- How to respond to philosophical goals
- How to respond to negative goals
- How to respond to conflicting goals
- How to respond to manipulative goals
- How to respond to abstract goals
- How to respond to untimed goals
- How to recognize and respond to verbal and non-verbal objections.
- How to respond to spontaneous trance during goalwork
- How to recognize identity loss (lost identity, identifications and
identity conflict)
- How to recognize relationship bonds
- How to dissolve "Yes-No" objections (simultaneous incongruence)
- How to dissolve "Yes-but" objections in ordinary conversation
- How to build harmony with "inner critics" (self-criticism)
- How to deal with criticism
- How to deal with compliments and flattery
Many people interrupt their coaching plan with descriptions of
vivid or recurring dreams. Other people may be unable to answer questions about
life goals without going into trance-like states. (In systemic coaching we
don't use trance inductions ... we don't have to).
Hence Systems 3 coach training explores how to find life
goals and how to continue goalwork in dreams and in trance. You will observe
many demonstrations with real issues, and you will practice with other
participants to build your experience:
- How and when to use mini-metaphors
- How to recognize and respond to spontaneous trance
- How to change reality using isomorphic metaphors
- How to start and continue interactive metaphors
(Dreamwork)
- How to create isomorphic interactive metaphors to identify goals and blocks
- How to coach people to end nightmares or recurring bad dreams
- How to commence and use a goalwalk
- How to recognize major identity loss
- How to recognize identifications
- How to recognize identity conflict (complex conflict)
- How to recognize relationship bonds
- How to recognize ecstatic and transcendental states of consciousness
- How to coach a person to experience integrity (the Soul of Soulwork)
- How to stabilize integrity as a basis for dissolving
emotional incest,
bonds and
trauma.
Systems 4: Abuse,
Trauma & Motivation
Many people who cannot define or achieve their goals are blocked by
unresolved and often forgotten trauma. Until these issues are resolved,
these people may act childishly in situations requiring maturity. They
will likely sabotage themselves, damage relationships and continue to fail
The consequences of trauma and
PTSD may be contextual, (e.g. a phobia) or existential
(all of life). Trauma may create relationship bonds (see
Systems 5) or identity issues (see
Systems 6).
Attempts to resolve trauma without resolving
identity issues and relationship bonds may only provide short-term
benefits - at best. Our coach training provides effective skills.
- The stages of crisis
- How to recognize the consequences of abuse, crisis and emotional trauma
- How to coach people to make friends with parts of themselves that
they don't like
- How to help people recover lost or hidden resources - for the long-term
- How to transform unpleasant emotions into motivation
- How to dissolve trauma about disease and health issues
- How to prepare for future unpleasant events
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Systems 4 was another fine piece of the complex and
comprehensive system of your coach training. I hope that Soulwork
develops and spreads, so that it can help people to fulfill their lives.
Professor Martin Šmid, (PhD, Prague, Czech Republic)
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Many people feel compelled to repeat actions that they would
prefer to avoid. Compulsions and obsessions often reflect
relationship bonds
- deep limiting beliefs that pervade all parts of life. In Soulwork 5 you can
explore the systemic structure of compulsions and obsessions as you learn
how to end relationship damage and help people improve their lives.
In our early training we called these bonds
thoughtforms. (Relationship
bonds may be called demons by esoteric, archaic and medieval authorities.)
In Systems 5 systemic coach
training you can learn:
- How to recognize relationship bonds
- How to differentiate between the isomorphic descriptions of relationship
bonds
- How to coach people to identify the consequences of bonded relationships
- How to limit the consequences of relationship bonds
- How to replace toxic bonds with peaceful self-esteem, freedom and love
Toxic relationship bonds loss may be diagnosed as mental
disorders. After relationship bonds are dissolved, our systemic
coaching addresses issues of identity Together, Systems 4, 5
and 6, offer complete coaching for relationship entanglements
that cause emotional and relationship problems.
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Systems 5 was fantastic! I didn't believe that
relationship bonds were real until I
found and replaced some of my own bonds during this excellent training. Please make
these coaching skills available to other professionals. Academy Director, Croatia
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Systems 6: Identity Loss:
Lost Identity, Identifications & Identity Conflict
If people have existential (all life) blocks against
long-term happiness; then endless encouragement or goal coaching cannot
help them fulfill meaningful goals. This coach training segment is about
people who have lost themselves
(identity loss), who have
identified with others
(identification) or who have
complex conflict (identity conflict).
Systemic disturbances may be contextual (triggered by
some internal or external event) or existential (all of life). Identity
loss is associated with subtle or overwhelming emotions, or the lack of emotions.
These disturbances are usually formed during a family crisis or period of
relationship chaos during childhood, although the consequences may remain
dormant until adolescence.
In Systems 6
coach training you can
learn how to explore the varieties of identity
loss and effective ways for restoring personal integrity with systemic
coaching and interactive metaphors. You will observe many
demonstrations with real issues, and you will practice with others to
build your experience:
- How to coach people to recover Lost Identity (chronic dissociation)
- How to coach people to end Dead Person Identification (chronic sadness or melancholy)
- How to coach people to end Victim Identification (chronic anger or rage)
- How to coach people to end Hero Identification (chronic fear or anxiety)
- How to coach people to end complex conflict (cannot be resolved by sequencing goals)
- How to coach people to end Identity Conflict (chronic conflict)
Extreme identity loss may be diagnosed as mental
disorders. After identity loss is resolved, we address
relationship bonds and then emotional trauma. Together, Systems 4, 5
and 6, offer complete coaching for relationship entanglements
that cause many emotional and relationship problems. We estimate that about 20%
- 25% of Europeans and Americans suffer from chronic identity loss.
Many issues of Identity Loss covered in Systems 6
coach training can be considered as an extreme form of relationship
bonds. Other forms of relationship bonds are covered in Systems 5
coach training.
Systems 7:
Inspiration & Mentorship
You can learn how to evaluate and replace toxic role models and mentors.
Help people choose inspirational mentors in all parts of life. Learn
how to model and duplicate expert behavior, focusing on problem solving
techniques. Learn how to coach people to build and fine-tune life-fulfilling
goals.
Systems 7 includes ways to dissolve the consequences of inappropriate
mentorship from cults and cult-like organizations (see
Exit Coaching), incompetent
therapists and (often) well-meaning authorities.
- How to recognize therapy damage
and coach people to dissolve it
- How to expert modeling of conscious
and unconscious strategies
- How to compare and fine tune unconscious strategies
- How to discuss solutions for sexual issues
- How to start a systemic coaching practice
As the consequences of even the best individual coaching can disturb a partner,
couple coaching is a wonderful way to complete a systemic coaching program.
You can coach couples or partners to solve issues that prevent them from
solving their problems. Coach partners to coach each other! You can coach
couples to increase love and resolve complaints. You can help couples dissolve
single and double transferences (mistaking each other for someone else) and
projections (pretending to be someone else).
Coach couples to prepare for committed partnership,
end relationship damage and, sometimes, coach couples to separate peacefully.
Conjoint (simultaneous) coaching is the start of true systemic coaching.
Systems 8 coach training includes:
- How to prepare for couple coaching
- How to avoid triangulation
- How to quickly uncover core couple partnership issues
- How to build and maintain trust with both partners
- How and when to provide individual coaching to one partner
- How to resolve transferences and core transference loops
- How to coach people through peaceful separation or divorce
- How to set homework for couples
Your Next Step
. Systems 9 - Family Coaching
. Systems 10 - Team Coaching
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