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If your sense of life can be replaced by guilt,
shame and depression, then abortion is an important issue in your life.
If you feel strong emotions as you read this - please STOP reading.
Part 1: Emotional Consequences of
Abortion :
Part 3: Spiritual Consequences of Abortion
Relationship Consequences of Abortion
Abortion seems to affect sense of life. People affected by
abortion may become unable to feel joyously connected to their friends, partners,
families, humanity and to their God. If human connectedness is replaced by
depression and suffering, then abortion is a spiritual issue. I and many of my
graduates help people
find solutions for the relationship and emotional consequences of abortion.
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When my girlfriend got pregnant, I was happy ...
I wanted to marry her and become a father ...
she had an abortion without asking me ... I hope that I never see
her again!
Fort Lauderdale, Florida |
Depression & Lost Children
Guilt seems to naturally result from hurting people.
Pleasure may seem senseless if you have hurt or killed a child - or a potential child.
Following an abortion, unresolved guilt may depress your life.
Some common signs of guilty depression are:
- Ignore personal hygiene
- Avoid keeping track of finances
- Avoid completing essential tasks
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- Ignore important problems
- Consider self-harm or suicide
- Do things that create problems
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Although we help people resolve guilt and depression,
we also meet people who believe that they deserve to suffer and
who avoid or sabotage opportunities for relief and happiness. (We suspect
that very many mental health issues are actually self-sabotage!)
Depression
. Anxiety
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Stress .
Suicide
Relationship Health & our Systemic Coaching
We help adults solve relationship problems. We find that aborted
children are important relationships, although many people try to forget about
their abortions. We find that parents and their surviving children usually carry
the emotional baggage of abortion, and suffer relationship consequences.
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You
should not write about such things. You make people feel even worse that we
already feel. People don't want to know this stuff. They just want to forget
about it. Ohio, USA |
Our post-abortion coaching helps parents regain intimacy
following an abortion, and avoid separation or divorce, especially when a
loss of intimacy follows a decision to abort a child. (A miscarriage or
stillbirth caused by stress or violence often has similar emotional and
relationship consequences to an abortion.)
Ultimatum: lose the baby or lose me
A woman may have an abortion following an ultimatum that
either she end her pregnancy or the partner leaves. If a man insists that his
potential child be killed, despite his partner's desire to give birth to a
living baby; this couple may never regain their earlier intimacy ...
even if they stay together ... unless they resolve their guilt, anxiety and anger.
We integrate our
post-abortion coaching with marriage counseling and couple coaching,
and we help couples rebuild intimacy and commitment after losing a child.
Missing Children
Siblings of an aborted child may be troubled
by nightmares and disturbing dreams of being chased by monsters or ghosts,
or that someone wants to kill them. They may also have phantom
friends or treat a pet like a sibling.
These children may be overwhelmed with grief if such a pet dies.
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My 6 year old daughter has recurring nightmares ...
being chased by a bad man with a knife who wants to cut her into pieces
... yes, I had two abortions ... why do you ask? Zagreb, Croatia
Within two months of your work with me and my daughter,
she now sleeps peacefully, her ADD seems to be fading away and the prescription
for her glasses is much less. I am surprised that you made her session as part
of a seminar for child psychologists. Zagreb, Croatia |
Our pre-marital coaching and
couple coaching may
include post-abortion counseling to help resolve previous abortions for both
parents - especially if a couple has difficulty conceiving a child.
Following an abortion, many people describe (feel or
experience) a dark shape or black hole in or near their bodies. Other children may also sense
this "hole", and be strongly affected by it, perhaps with nightmares of being
trapped, or of being chased - sometimes by a "man with a knife".
Following a secret abortion, other family members may sense
that something is wrong. This feeling of wrongness is often experienced by
children in subsequent generations! A potential child was killed at
the parents’ request.
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Aborted children can be born again ...
I reincarnated after I was aborted by my parents ... I told my parents
that I AM their dead (aborted) child ... they do not need to grieve me!
Vienna, Austria |
If a child identifies with an aborted child, he or she tries to
compensate for the aborted child. The surviving child may grow up melancholic and
highly sensitive. (This includes psychic sensitivity - many psychics boast about
their dead “spirit helpers”). Such children may be fascinated by death,
cemeteries and horror films, etc, yet is not afraid of death.
See: Dead Person Identification
Failed Abortions
Occasionally, I meet people whose parents tried to abort
them, but failed. As children they often had nightmares of being chased by
people with knives, and seemed to grow up distrusting their parents. They may
also have a phobia of hospitals, clinics etc. When I coached four people with
phobias of old women in Poland, where abortion was illegal, the original
significant emotional events appeared to be illegal abortions that failed
to kill the fetus. (I don't recall seeing this phobia in the West).
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I had two abortions. I should have had three, but I left
the third too late and the doctors wouldn't kill it ... I love her even
though she is always miserable and angry. Can you help her?
Oregon |
Consequences to Abortionists
Abortionists we have met seemed dissociated (unable to feel many
emotions) and less able to maintain intimate relationships or long-term happiness.
They seemed to search for distractions rather than a meaningful life; resulting in
divorces, obsessions and addictions. (We note that doctors seem to have the highest
professional suicide rate ... what else in medicine is sense-less?)
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As a doctor I have advised many women to have abortions ...
and I have seen most of the consequences that you describe ... I'm not so sure now
that my advice was good.
I will do some research. Thanks. Dallas, Texas |
Also, the children of abortionists that we have met seemed to show
many more symptoms of depression, ADD, nightmares, anxiety, learning disabilities
and psychosomatic disease - even when the children were not told of their parent's
medical specialty.
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Your writing about abortion is pure nonsense.
Abortion is not murder anymore than liposuction, and the proper term is
'abortion doctor,' not 'abortionist'. Anonymous |
Summary
Since you started reading this page, about two thousand more abortions
have just been made. Most of those little bodies are now in garbage containers and some
are being processed - their tissues are being harvested. Many of these deaths will
have consequences that the parents, families and abortionists are not prepared for.
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